Take Note Parents.. ↓This is how its Done ↓

Friday, January 11, 2013

Writer Janell Burley Hofmann created a detailed code of conduct for her son Gregory's new iPhone. (ABC News)

Have you heard of the iphone contract that Janell Burley Hofmann set up for her son? Its made national news and after reading it.. I just had to share it. You can also find this, along with many other great posts on her blog at Janell Burley Hofmann.com

Have a read for yourself.. 

Dear Gregory
Merry Christmas! You are now the proud owner of an iPhone. Hot Damn! You are a good and responsible 13-year-old boy and you deserve this gift. But with the acceptance of this present comes rules and regulations. Please read through the following contract. I hope that you understand it is my job to raise you into a well rounded, healthy young man that can function in the world and coexist with technology, not be ruled by it. Failure to comply with the following list will result in termination of your iPhone ownership.
I love you madly and look forward to sharing several million text messages with you in the days to come.
1. It is my phone. I bought it. I pay for it. I am loaning it to you. Aren't I the greatest?
2. I will always know the password.
3. If it rings, answer it. It is a phone. Say hello, use your manners. Do not ever ignore a phone call if the screen reads "Mom" or "Dad." Not ever.
4. Hand the phone to one of your parents promptly at 7:30 p.m. every school night and every weekend night at 9:00 p.m. It will be shut off for the night and turned on again at 7:30 a.m. If you would not make a call to someone's land line, wherein their parents may answer first, then do not call or text. Listen to those instincts and respect other families like we would like to be respected.
5. It does not go to school with you. Have a conversation with the people you text in person. It's a life skill. *Half days, field trips and after school activities will require special consideration.
6. If it falls into the toilet, smashes on the ground, or vanishes into thin air, you are responsible for the replacement costs or repairs. Mow a lawn, babysit, stash some birthday money. It will happen, you should be prepared.
7. Do not use this technology to lie, fool, or deceive another human being. Do not involve yourself in conversations that are hurtful to others. Be a good friend first or stay the hell out of the crossfire.
8. Do not text, email, or say anything through this device you would not say in person.
9. Do not text, email, or say anything to someone that you would not say out loud with their parents in the room. Censor yourself.
10. No porn. Search the web for information you would openly share with me. If you have a question about anything, ask a person — preferably me or your father.
11. Turn it off, silence it, put it away in public. Especially in a restaurant, at the movies, or while speaking with another human being. You are not a rude person; do not allow the iPhone to change that.
12. Do not send or receive pictures of your private parts or anyone else's private parts. Don't laugh. Someday you will be tempted to do this despite your high intelligence. It is risky and could ruin your teenage/college/adult life. It is always a bad idea. Cyberspace is vast and more powerful than you. And it is hard to make anything of this magnitude disappear — including a bad reputation.
13. Don't take a zillion pictures and videos. There is no need to document everything. Live your experiences. They will be stored in your memory for eternity.
14. Leave your phone home sometimes and feel safe and secure in that decision. It is not alive or an extension of you. Learn to live without it. Be bigger and more powerful than FOMO (fear of missing out).
15. Download music that is new or classic or different than the millions of your peers that listen to the same exact stuff. Your generation has access to music like never before in history. Take advantage of that gift. Expand your horizons.
16. Play a game with words or puzzles or brain teasers every now and then.
17. Keep your eyes up. See the world happening around you. Stare out a window. Listen to the birds. Take a walk. Talk to a stranger. Wonder without googling.
18. You will mess up. I will take away your phone. We will sit down and talk about it. We will start over again. You and I, we are always learning. I am on your team. We are in this together.
It is my hope that you can agree to these terms. Most of the lessons listed here do not just apply to the iPhone, but to life. You are growing up in a fast and ever changing world. It is exciting and enticing. Keep it simple every chance you get. Trust your powerful mind and giant heart above any machine. I love you. I hope you enjoy your awesome new iPhone.
So what do you think? I think its brilliant. Its something that we all should be doing for our kids. With all the technology avilable now.. we all have to set up guidelines for our young kids who are just starting to experience all the vast amounts of technology that surrounds them. Just a few weeks ago, I took my 11 year olds smart phone.. uploaded everything.. including contacts.. and I was able to get all the text messages and emails too. I don't think in this era we can be too safe with our kids. 

Just had to share this.. any thoughts? 

K Jaggers
11 comments on "Take Note Parents.. ↓This is how its Done ↓"
  1. I read about this last week, and it's awesome! COMPLETELY AWESOME!!!

  2. I do not even have children and I think this is awesome.
    I have 15 nieces and nephews though and I hope that their parents have a contract like this between them before a phone is given.

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  5. @ 2justByou.. Its amazing right!? I loved it!

    @ Suburban Prep.. I think its great. Both of my kids have smart phones at 10 and 11 years old.. I didn't make them sign anything but we had some serious discussions about the right and wrong ways to use their devices. So far so good..and we have spot checks where I take the phones when I want and go through them.. so far so good!

  6. OK love this! We have 6 kids, 5 boys and a baby girl! Our rule on cell phones is you get one when you turn 16, so J will be 16 in September, he already told my hubbie which one he wants! I had some rules wrote down also, but I sure enough will be using some of her rules. I totally agree with everything in this!

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  7. @ Judy.. Nice to meet you! I love the contract.. Love.. love .. love!! Happy New Year!

    @ Ceri G.. Nice to meet you! Happy to be following you.. can't wait to get to know you better in the future!

    @ Pamela.. You should take some take some or all of those rules.. My kids take the phone to school but it has to be on silent. I like the idea of GPS being on the phones in case something God Awful was to happen.. ( watch Nancy Grace wayyy to much! ) but besides that.. I totally agree with everything! Good luck with your son in September!! I bet he will do great with it!

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  9. I saw this on Pinterest and loved it! This lady is awesome!
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  10. This is awesome! I had not heard about this before. My kids are still far too young for a cell phone of any kind (3 and 1), but I will definitely keep this in mind for when they're older. Thanks for sharing!

  11. @ Laurie.. Thanks so much! So nice to meet you! Can't wait to get to know you better! =)

    @ Michelle.. Nice to meet you too! =) And yes.. shes right on the money with how to give a child a phone.. Loved it!

    @ Ms T.. Print it off and put it in your files because I guessing sometime in the future.. you might need it!


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